are you dating anyone?

how are you supposed to answer this question?

if like 60 people ask the same night if i have a boyfriend, what am i supposed to say? cuz yeah, i could say that im dating someone exclusively. but theyre not asking me if im dating someone, theyre asking me if i have a boyfriend that im going to marry sometime in the next couple years. and obviously i dont have a "yes" answer for that. so then they offer to introduce me to boys that they know...but i cant very well be out meeting boys if i have someone that i am dating exclusively. it's very complicated.

so then the one time i say that im dating someone and not thinking about marriage, the response i get is "why have a summer internship when you could be looking for a full time job?"

quite the analogy.

Surreal

I'm in Chicago this weekend, and so is the rest of my family. I have about a thousand thoughts running through my head and we'll see if i can get them in any sort of order.
We're all here because the 5th was my dad's birthday, and we're having a weekend of memorial parties/activities in his honor. Tonight was the more intimate party at our family friend's house (which is pretty much a mansion), with about 100 people. My dad's entire side of the family flew in from New York, and all our good family friends. The had catered from my dad's favorite restaurant in Chicago and had all his favorite activites and songs lined up. And when they sang happy birthday (for all 6 october birthdays that night), the sang my dad's name.

Does it seem weird to anyone else that we're singing happy birthday to a dead person? Is this all for our family? For my mom to feel more comfortable? I think my mom is doing it so that they all feel more comfortable. I for one, felt uncomfortable. It was awesome that so many people came together to remember everything he did...but it was just plain weird. You dont sing happy birthday to deceased people.

We'll see how tomorrow goes - it's supposed to be a hell of a lot bigger, but without the booze.

Second...I got to thinking how strange it is that my dad's entire side of the family flies in and socializes with these people, even though there's technically no more connection. It's just another reminder of how strong the family bind is - and kinda makes me feel happy and safe that im in one of those crazy indian families where everyone is in eachother's business. Cuz it means that even if youre related through marriage, youre still family, even if the direct blood connection stops.

Also bizarre that my mom's side of the family (much more subdued) and my dad's side of the family (obscenely loud), even though theyve been socializing for 30 years, still end up hanging out in different rooms when we're in the same house. It's a wonder my parents could stand to be in the same room given the different nature of their upbringings. I'm not sure of this is a case for or against arranged marriage.

Sorry this was kind of rambling.

and whoa. the last time we had a big birthday party for my dad was saturday, october 7, 1995.

Surreal

I'm in Chicago this weekend, and so is the rest of my family. I have about a thousand thoughts running through my head and we'll see if i can get them in any sort of order.
We're all here because the 5th was my dad's birthday, and we're having a weekend of memorial parties/activities in his honor. Tonight was the more intimate party at our family friend's house (which is pretty much a mansion), with about 100 people. My dad's entire side of the family flew in from New York, and all our good family friends. The had catered from my dad's favorite restaurant in Chicago and had all his favorite activites and songs lined up. And when they sang happy birthday (for all 6 october birthdays that night), the sang my dad's name.

Does it seem weird to anyone else that we're singing happy birthday to a dead person? Is this all for our family? For my mom to feel more comfortable? I think my mom is doing it so that they all feel more comfortable. I for one, felt uncomfortable. It was awesome that so many people came together to remember everything he did...but it was just plain weird. You dont sing happy birthday to deceased people.

We'll see how tomorrow goes - it's supposed to be a hell of a lot bigger, but without the booze.

Second...I got to thinking how strange it is that my dad's entire side of the family flies in and socializes with these people, even though there's no more connection technically. It's just another reminder of how strong the family bind is - and kinda makes me feel happy and safe that im in one of those crazy indian families where everyone is in eachother's business. Cuz it means that even if youre related through marriage, youre still family, even if the direct blood connection stops.

Also bizarre that my mom's side of the family (much more subdued) and my dad's side of the family (obscenely loud), even though theyve been socializing for 30 years, still end up hanging out in different rooms when we're in the same house. It's a wonder my parents could stand to be in the same room given the different nature of their upbringing. I'm not sure of this is a case for or against arranged marriage.

Sorry this was kind of rambling.